“You’ve got to have a dream. If you don’t have a dream, how you gonna have a dream come true?” That’s a line from the song Happy Talk in the musical South Pacific. Just in case you relate the word ‘dream’ to wishful thinking or fantasy, let’s look at the synonyms for ‘dream’ found in the Oxford English Dictionary. They include Aspiration, goal, hope, intention, objective, design, ambition, plan, aim, vision. Having a dream, goal, aspiration, intention for our life in the short term and long term provides us with many benefits. It is a good way to focus attention on the things that are important. It allows us to create a vision of how we would like our life to be. This in turn has us develop a plan and set priorities . Even taking small steps towards that dream gives us hope, a sense of purpose and well being. Dream on.
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Here we are in April with the hope and promise that Spring brings (despite the current weather). Part of that is the magnificence of the multitude of colors that will pop up all around us. I envision daffodil yellow, cerulean blue sky, grassy green, cherry blossom pink, fuzzy wuzzy brown tree bark. With that, my thoughts totally go to Crayola crayons, the amazing dream sticks. They come in a kaleidoscope of 120 awesome colors. These 120 colors include 23 reds, 20 greens, 19 blues, 16 purples, 14 oranges, 11 browns, 8 yellows, 2 grays, 2 coppers, 2 blacks, 1 white, 1 gold and 1 silver. Who knew? May I suggest you dig out that Crayola box and color the world with love, one crayon at a time. Fun fact: the first box of Crayola crayons was sold in 1903 for a nickel and included the same colors available in the eight-count box today: red, blue, yellow, green, violet, orange, black and brown. “Always Do Your Best Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.” This passage is from The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. I would like to say this concept has been of great help to me. At the end of the day, I ask myself, “Did I do my best today?” I then review the day’s events to answer that question. Whatever the answer, it does give me a better perspective and helps me not to be too hard on myself. Hello, again. It’s been 2 months since I took a hiatus from blogging. Honestly, I didn’t think I would start again. Yet, here I am, uncertain about my commitment to longevity. When I began doing this, I believed if I did not stick to a weekly post, I might easily stop at any time. And so, for 6 years, 6 months and 2 weeks I never missed a week. I’ve decided to return with a different mindset. I will write if the spirit moves me or a muse shows up. If neither happens, I’ve given myself permission to take a pass. So, here we go. For a while I was reading Sue Grafton’s alphabet mysteries until they started getting more violent and graphic. However, the idea of using the alphabet for subject matter could be fun. While I like to do things in proper order, I may not. If a letter shows up with a story, I may just go with it. Let’s begin. A is for already. What efforts have you already made towards what you are next hoping, planning wanting for yourself? Reflect, for a moment, on a sense of progress that you have experienced. This may have been because of an important decision, a surprising risk, or even a familiar struggle you’ve worked through. The point is becoming aware that whatever progress was made could be a jump start to what’s next. Knowing what you’ve already done and can do, you may not need to return to square one. How did it help you to discover what’s really important to you?” Comments are always welcome. "There's a trick to the 'graceful exit.' It begins with the vision to recognize when a job, a life stage, or a relationship is over--and let it go. It means leaving what's over without denying its validity or its past importance to our lives. It involves a sense of future, a belief that every exit line is an entry, that we are moving up, rather than out.” Ellen Goodman When the “up” becomes clear, I may be back. Meanwhile, thanks to all who took the time to read my posts. Hoping to meet up again. I might be about to set a Guinness World Record for length of being out to lunch. I am not ready to close up shop permanently. I figured I’d just go out for lunch or several lunches and see what happens. The pantry is empty, so I must dine out until it can be restocked. I’ll keep in touch and let you know if anything enticing appears on the menus along the way. I don’t know about you, but January has always been a long, bleak month of not much for me. At the moment I am recovering from being quite ill over Christmas and New Year’s. Consequently it seems like not all of my brain cells are firing yet. Also, still waiting for my smell and taste to return. About that, I found an interesting exercise recommended by the Mayo Clinic to help stimulate the olfactory nerves. They suggest inhaling the scents of eucalyptus, clove, lemon and rose for 15 seconds each twice a day. I think it’s actually helping. But, I digress. What I am really looking for is some nonsense, something to stimulate the creative part of my brain. There is so much turmoil and disturbing things going on around the world, from which we could use a break. For me that break includes some nonsense and whimsy, something to stimulate my imagination. It’s a work in progress. In the meantime here are some notable days in January that can elicit smiles. Jan. 3 – Fruitcake Toss Day Jan. 4 – National Spaghetti Day Jan. 8 – Bubble Bath Day Jan. 10 – National Take The Stairs Day Jan. 10 – Peculiar People Day Jan. 15 – National Hat Day Jan. 16 – National Nothing Day Jan. 18 – Winnie the Pooh Day (A.A. Milne’s birthday) Jan. 20 – Penguin Awareness Day Jan. 21 – National Hugging Day Jan. 21 – Squirrel Appreciation Day Jan. 23 – National Pie Day Jan. 24 – Compliment Day (This should be every day) Jan. 27 – Chocolate Cake Day Jan. 28 – National Kazoo Day Jan. 29 – Bubble Wrap Appreciation Day Comments are welcomed. “I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes. Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You're doing things you've never done before, and more importantly, you're doing something.” Neil Gaiman Have a happy, healthy New Year and let’s make that “doing something” be a little something positive each day. May we give the light of love to those who need it most all the year through.
See you in the New Year. I’ve checked all the boxes and am ready for Santa. I know I’ve been a little naughty, but mostly nice, I believe. I’ll let him decide. The most useful thing I can do now is review this past year. What can be improved upon? What things, as they say, “forget about it?” What positives to nurture and grow for the coming year? I’ll try to string all of these together with a garland of gratitude. Anyway, there’s not much else to say at this point. I wish you all peace and many blessings with whatever holiday you observe this year and for the coming year. This week begins the twelve days of Christmas. The gold rings, milkers, swimmers, leapers, dancers, drummers, et al are great fun. How about a different version such as twelve days of kindness? Following are ideas for the 12 days. It is so easy, even in the smallest way, to do a kindness for others, animals, the environment. So I invite your generosity of spirit and creativity to expand the list below. Dec. 13, day 1 – Pay someone a compliment. Be specific. Dec. 14, day 2 – Smile. Sometimes a smile is the only bright thing in someone’s day. Dec. 15, day 3 – Do an errand for a neighbor or friend who may be unable to get out. Dec. 16, day 4 – Be kind to the environment and your bank account. Unplug devices over night and reduce energy use where ever possible. Dec. 17, day 5 – Buy someone a coffee, tea or hot chocolate. Dec. 18, day 6 – Leave a treat in your mail box for the mail carrier. Dec. 19, day 7 Let’s not forget our fine feathered friends. Put out some suet and seeds for the birds. Dec. 20, day 8 – Leave an extra tip with an appreciative note. Paying it forward never gets old. Dec. 21, day 9 – Make a donation to a food bank, a toy drive or favorite charity. Dec. 22, day 10 – Leave sticky notes with positive messages where ever you go. Dec. 23, day 11 – Be kind to yourself. Taking the time for self-care helps us to maintain the reserves needed to take care of others . Dec. 24, day 12 – Have a very Merry Christmas or a very Merry holiday of your faith and tradition. While trying how to start off this final month of the year, I came across the following by Linda Anderson Krech. I felt she really addresses the climate of the holiday season in a most poignant manner. “Are you looking forward to the holiday season? If you are happy with the state of your life, and you’ll be spending time with people you love, it’s easy to look forward with positive anticipation. The jingles and the jangles of the season may sound sweet to you, and the holiday sparkle lifts your spirits. But not everyone is embedded in a cozy world of a loving family. Many people do not have a cohesive family, or a healthy family, or any family. The festive sounds and sights of the holiday may be experienced very differently if your relationships are under strain or if you find yourself isolated due to divorce, illness, relocation, rifts or the death of loved ones. One of the seasonal traps that we can fall into is focusing on what we don’t have. That’s so easy to do when we are saturated by images of the perfect family gatherings. If our life looks very different, we can become acutely aware of what is missing and find ourselves dwelling on what we don’t have. This sets us on the path of disappointment and self-pity. But this is where we can go beyond our circumstantial limitations and discover a way to make the holidays meaningful. What could that look like? We can do something interesting, creative, helpful, generous, loving or sweet and, in the process, replace self-pity with fulfillment and satisfaction. How to do this may not be at all obvious, at first glance. That’s part of the challenge and the opportunity to expand ourselves, using resourcefulness and taking initiative. What can you offer, and who can you offer it to? Can you lend a hand with activities that are already organized, or can you come up with a small scale effort of your own? Can you do something anonymously with strangers, or strategically with specific people you know, maybe gifts for school custodians or hospital staff, or special attention to the animals at the Humane Society. May we all find a way to work with and enjoy our circumstances. The more we attempt to use our energy toward the common good in some way, the more rewarded we will be in our own hearts and lives. It’s easy to lose sight of that simple truth under the holiday hubbub, but let's try to keep it in view." Comments are welcome. Well, folks, this week totally got away from me. I had a technology issue that also blew out my internal circuits. The issue triggered a major freak out on my part. Thanks to a dear friend I was able to contact the service provider and arrange for a technician to come in the afternoon. A couple of other things went wrong while waiting for the afternoon to arrive. Thanks to another good friend, who came over to take a look at things. He actually found a simple solution which restored everything to working order. He even took me to get a coffee and sandwich for a needed treat. I then cancelled the tech and all has been well since. Fingers crossed. After recovering from that episode, a second nasty thing happened which I will not go into. It did, however, result in loss of sleep. Like Alexander, I had a couple of terrible, horrible, no good, very bad days. Thus, we have here a nothing burger of a blog. Sometimes it can be difficult finding the positive from challenging situations. In this case it was an easy find. I am so grateful for the blessings of having good friends. They are to be cherished. Comments are welcomed November, though it is almost over, has been National Gratitude Month. That is something that ought to be the theme of every month. That said, I learned some different ways to incorporate gratitude in our daily lives. Having a new approach to a habit or ritual can add some spark and fun that may have waned. It’s been said that when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. Here are a few different looks. Look for the “glimmers” throughout your day. Glimmers are those little things that give you joy, fun, happiness, smiles. The glimmers may also be special memories. It can be fun to count your glimmers as well as your blessings. Some might even be all wrapped up together. If you have difficulty sleeping, try singling out one person you care about. Think of all the things you appreciate about that person. This tends to be relaxing and focuses our attention on the positive. Those who have tried this, said they wake up in a better mood the next morning as well. Select one food for which you are grateful. Consider all aspects – where it came from, how it is produced, what goodness it provides for your body and health. I would not rule out a fun food as well. For me, my fun item is good coffee. One final suggestion. Everyone has a special skill, character strengths and something or some things they are really good at. What is your super power? What do you appreciate about your super power? How does it make a difference in your Life? This week Many will be celebrating Thanksgiving. Happy Thanksgiving to those of you. And, Happy Holidays to all during the upcoming holiday season however you celebrate. Comments are welcomed. When Covid came along it profoundly changed our lives. Even though some degree of normalcy has returned, it still may never be as it once was. People of all ages have been seriously affected in many different ways. There’s no need to do a deep dive on this. You all know what I’m talking about. Now there’s another crisis brewing in the Middle East which has spilled over into protests in other countries. I came across the following message from Linda Anderson Krech in the ToDo newsletter, which I felt was a great way to look at the current situation. “It's a difficult time in many respects, for many people across the globe. A time of crisis and terror, for many. A time when the basics of life are no longer available. And a time of grief and loss. But for some of us, life still holds together quite well and moves along quite smoothly. There are sporting events to attend and restaurants to enjoy. We may hear news on the way to the supermarket or in the comfort of our living rooms, but we are not directly touched by war and desperation. Should we not enjoy our good fortune, given all the suffering in the world? I think we should enjoy our lives as much as possible, to help balance what is occurring elsewhere. But more importantly, let's do something to be useful or helpful to someone else. If we can't directly help those in the war, then let's help someone nearby. We cannot save the world and can't even help the most needy, but we can do something for someone. We can make a gesture of kindness in the world. That's something we can do.” Comments are welcomed. |
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