Here we are in the last few days of 2022. The word resolutions always pops up at this time. The thoughts are new year, new beginning, another chance to get it right. People tend to resolve to such things as improving diets, getting in better shape, completing projects, less time on devices and so on and on. How long is the stick-to-it time? A week? A month? There are a variety of tips for prolonging these intentions.
As for me, I gave up on making resolutions years ago. I knew I would not stick with them. I’ve taken on a different kind of practice for a new year. Basically I review the previous year making note of all that I’ve done or said that was so not cool. I fully commit to clean those things up to eliminate the chance of repeats.
On the other hand, I believe it is just as important to look at what went well and that which worked. The commitment there is to do more or better with that which was on the positive side.
Periodic reflections throughout the year and renewing my commitment to both doing less of the down sides and more of the up sides becomes a more natural process for keeping the intentions going.
My best hopes and intentions are to be kinder, more compassionate, laugh more and have a whole lot more gratitude. What about you? What are your best hopes going forward?
How about this - "Let our New Year's resolution be this: We will be there for one another as fellow members of humanity, in the finest sense of the word." - Goran Persson
The next time we get together Christmas will have come and gone. Not completely gone as this is just the day after. Still…
I just have a few words at this time. What matters most throughout December is also what matters most throughout the year. Love, benevolence, forgiveness, good will, peace, hope for starters. And, when it comes to giving we can all afford to give the gifts of smiles and kindness to anyone, any time, anywhere.
Blessings to you and yours during this holiday season with much joy in your celebrations and traditions.
Comments are welcome.
I recently read an article by Trudy Boyle about finding the simple joys in our day, in our life by paying attention. We benefit in so many ways by noticing and appreciating these little joys and pleasures. Here is an excerpt from her article.
“One of the benefits of studying Japanese Psychology is its emphasis on cultivating our skills in paying attention. It helps me to notice all the small joys in my ordinary moments. In fact, the practice of “paying attention,” is in itself a joy because it reminds me every day, in the midst of obstacles and confusion, to look and see what else there is to notice beyond the default of the obvious.
In troubled times, it is easy to believe that life is bleak, and there are undeniable bleak moments for us all. Yet, there is also the truth that kindness is rampant, and beauty is everywhere, whether we notice or not. The practice of noticing, using a wide-angle lens, gives us a chance to expand our view. And with that, we rejuvenate, experience gratitude, and possibly consider what we can do to lend a hand.
Each brand-new day brings surprises. Some we like. Some we don’t. But, we can cultivate the skill of using our attention to always see small joys. Obstacles are easy to see. But the beautiful moon, the kind words, the smell of coffee, the car that starts, the bed we slept in, or the chance to make fresh tracks in new-fallen snow (well, that might just be tomorrow) – those are opportunities we need to look for.
If you are suffering and can find no joy the proven antidote according to the Dalai Lama is to help others. “Our visit to this planet is short, so we should use our time meaningfully, which we can do by helping others wherever possible.”
“When you are kind to someone else, you end up being joyful, but why? Because we realize that we are made for goodness,“ Archbishop Desmond Tutu”
Comments are welcomed.
As we move into December, it seems I have been unusually focused on the characteristics of each month. Personally, I find this a little odd. I guess that’s just how it is for now. Similar to November, I flip back and forth between the down sides and the upsides. I see more upsides throughout December. My perspective does an unpleasant shift when we roll into January, but that’s for another time.
My intention was to share some of my favorite things about December. Then I saw this fun little ditty and opted for that instead.
“I heard a bird sing
In the dark of December,
A magical thing,
And sweet to remember:
"We are nearer to spring
Than we were in September."
~Oliver Herford, "Hope," in The Century Magazine, 1914