"There's a trick to the 'graceful exit.' It begins with the vision to recognize when a job, a life stage, or a relationship is over--and let it go.
It means leaving what's over without denying its validity or its past importance to our lives. It involves a sense of future, a belief that every exit line is an entry, that we are moving up, rather than out.” Ellen Goodman
When the “up” becomes clear, I may be back. Meanwhile, thanks to all who took the time to read my posts. Hoping to meet up again.
I might be about to set a Guinness World Record for length of being out to lunch. I am not ready to close up shop permanently. I figured I’d just go out for lunch or several lunches and see what happens. The pantry is empty, so I must dine out until it can be restocked. I’ll keep in touch and let you know if anything enticing appears on the menus along the way.
I don’t know about you, but January has always been a long, bleak month of not much for me. At the moment I am recovering from being quite ill over Christmas and New Year’s. Consequently it seems like not all of my brain cells are firing yet. Also, still waiting for my smell and taste to return. About that, I found an interesting exercise recommended by the Mayo Clinic to help stimulate the olfactory nerves. They suggest inhaling the scents of eucalyptus, clove, lemon and rose for 15 seconds each twice a day. I think it’s actually helping. But, I digress.
What I am really looking for is some nonsense, something to stimulate the creative part of my brain. There is so much turmoil and disturbing things going on around the world, from which we could use a break. For me that break includes some nonsense and whimsy, something to stimulate my imagination. It’s a work in progress. In the meantime here are some notable days in January that can elicit smiles.
Jan. 3 – Fruitcake Toss Day
Jan. 4 – National Spaghetti Day
Jan. 8 – Bubble Bath Day
Jan. 10 – National Take The Stairs Day
Jan. 10 – Peculiar People Day
Jan. 15 – National Hat Day
Jan. 16 – National Nothing Day
Jan. 18 – Winnie the Pooh Day (A.A. Milne’s birthday)
Jan. 20 – Penguin Awareness Day
Jan. 21 – National Hugging Day
Jan. 21 – Squirrel Appreciation Day
Jan. 23 – National Pie Day
Jan. 24 – Compliment Day (This should be every day)
Jan. 27 – Chocolate Cake Day
Jan. 28 – National Kazoo Day
Jan. 29 – Bubble Wrap Appreciation Day
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“I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes. Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You're doing things you've never done before, and more importantly, you're doing something.” Neil Gaiman
Have a happy, healthy New Year and let’s make that “doing something” be a little something positive each day.
May we give the light of love to those who need it most all the year through.
See you in the New Year.
I’ve checked all the boxes and am ready for Santa. I know I’ve been a little naughty, but mostly nice, I believe. I’ll let him decide. The most useful thing I can do now is review this past year. What can be improved upon? What things, as they say, “forget about it?” What positives to nurture and grow for the coming year? I’ll try to string all of these together with a garland of gratitude.
Anyway, there’s not much else to say at this point. I wish you all peace and many blessings with whatever holiday you observe this year and for the coming year.
This week begins the twelve days of Christmas. The gold rings, milkers, swimmers, leapers, dancers, drummers, et al are great fun. How about a different version such as twelve days of kindness?
Following are ideas for the 12 days. It is so easy, even in the smallest way, to do a kindness for others,
animals, the environment. So I invite your generosity of spirit and creativity to expand the list below.
Dec. 13, day 1 – Pay someone a compliment. Be specific.
Dec. 14, day 2 – Smile. Sometimes a smile is the only bright thing in someone’s day.
Dec. 15, day 3 – Do an errand for a neighbor or friend who may be unable to get out.
Dec. 16, day 4 – Be kind to the environment and your bank account. Unplug devices over night and reduce energy use where ever possible.
Dec. 17, day 5 – Buy someone a coffee, tea or hot chocolate.
Dec. 18, day 6 – Leave a treat in your mail box for the mail carrier.
Dec. 19, day 7 Let’s not forget our fine feathered friends. Put out some suet and seeds for the birds.
Dec. 20, day 8 – Leave an extra tip with an appreciative note. Paying it forward never gets old.
Dec. 21, day 9 – Make a donation to a food bank, a toy drive or favorite charity.
Dec. 22, day 10 – Leave sticky notes with positive messages where ever you go.
Dec. 23, day 11 – Be kind to yourself. Taking the time for self-care helps us to maintain the reserves needed to take care of others .
Dec. 24, day 12 – Have a very Merry Christmas or a very Merry holiday of your faith and tradition.
While trying how to start off this final month of the year, I came across the following by Linda Anderson Krech. I felt she really addresses the climate of the holiday season in a most poignant manner.
“Are you looking forward to the holiday season? If you are happy with the state of your life, and you’ll be spending time with people you love, it’s easy to look forward with positive anticipation. The jingles and the jangles of the season may sound sweet to you, and the holiday sparkle lifts your spirits.
But not everyone is embedded in a cozy world of a loving family. Many people do not have a cohesive family, or a healthy family, or any family. The festive sounds and sights of the holiday may be experienced very differently if your relationships are under strain or if you find yourself isolated due to divorce, illness, relocation, rifts or the death of loved ones.
One of the seasonal traps that we can fall into is focusing on what we don’t have. That’s so easy to do when we are saturated by images of the perfect family gatherings. If our life looks very different, we can become acutely aware of what is missing and find ourselves dwelling on what we don’t have. This sets us on the path of disappointment and self-pity.
But this is where we can go beyond our circumstantial limitations and discover a way to make the holidays meaningful. What could that look like? We can do something interesting, creative, helpful, generous, loving or sweet and, in the process, replace self-pity with fulfillment and satisfaction.
How to do this may not be at all obvious, at first glance. That’s part of the challenge and the opportunity to expand ourselves, using resourcefulness and taking initiative. What can you offer, and who can you offer it to? Can you lend a hand with activities that are already organized, or can you come up with a small scale effort of your own? Can you do something anonymously with strangers, or strategically with specific people you know, maybe gifts for school custodians or hospital staff, or special attention to the animals at the Humane Society.
May we all find a way to work with and enjoy our circumstances. The more we attempt to use our energy toward the common good in some way, the more rewarded we will be in our own hearts and lives. It’s easy to lose sight of that simple truth under the holiday hubbub, but let's try to keep it in view."
Comments are welcome.
Well, folks, this week totally got away from me. I had a technology issue that also blew out my internal circuits. The issue triggered a major freak out on my part. Thanks to a dear friend I was able to contact the service provider and arrange for a technician to come in the afternoon. A couple of other things went wrong while waiting for the afternoon to arrive. Thanks to another good friend, who came over to take a look at things. He actually found a simple solution which restored everything to working order. He even took me to get a coffee and sandwich for a needed treat. I then cancelled the tech and all has been well since. Fingers crossed.
After recovering from that episode, a second nasty thing happened which I will not go into. It did, however, result in loss of sleep. Like Alexander, I had a couple of terrible, horrible, no good, very bad days. Thus, we have here a nothing burger of a blog.
Sometimes it can be difficult finding the positive from challenging situations. In this case it was an easy find. I am so grateful for the blessings of having good friends. They are to be cherished.
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November, though it is almost over, has been National Gratitude Month. That is something that ought to be the theme of every month. That said, I learned some different ways to incorporate gratitude in our daily lives. Having a new approach to a habit or ritual can add some spark and fun that may have waned. It’s been said that when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. Here are a few different looks.
Look for the “glimmers” throughout your day. Glimmers are those little things that give you joy, fun, happiness, smiles. The glimmers may also be special memories. It can be fun to count your glimmers as well as your blessings. Some might even be all wrapped up together.
If you have difficulty sleeping, try singling out one person you care about. Think of all the things you appreciate about that person. This tends to be relaxing and focuses our attention on the positive. Those who have tried this, said they wake up in a better mood the next morning as well.
Select one food for which you are grateful. Consider all aspects – where it came from, how it is produced, what goodness it provides for your body and health. I would not rule out a fun food as well. For me, my fun item is good coffee.
One final suggestion. Everyone has a special skill, character strengths and something or some things they are really good at. What is your super power? What do you appreciate about your super power? How does it make a difference in your Life?
This week Many will be celebrating Thanksgiving. Happy Thanksgiving to those of you. And, Happy Holidays to all during the upcoming holiday season however you celebrate.
Comments are welcomed.
When Covid came along it profoundly changed our lives. Even though some degree of normalcy has returned, it still may never be as it once was. People of all ages have been seriously affected in many different ways. There’s no need to do a deep dive on this. You all know what I’m talking about. Now there’s another crisis brewing in the Middle East which has spilled over into protests in other countries.
I came across the following message from Linda Anderson Krech in the ToDo newsletter, which I felt was a great way to look at the current situation.
“It's a difficult time in many respects, for many people across the globe. A time of crisis and terror, for many. A time when the basics of life are no longer available. And a time of grief and loss.
But for some of us, life still holds together quite well and moves along quite smoothly. There are sporting events to attend and restaurants to enjoy. We may hear news on the way to the supermarket or in the comfort of our living rooms, but we are not directly touched by war and desperation. Should we not enjoy our good fortune, given all the suffering in the world? I think we should enjoy our lives as much as possible, to help balance what is occurring elsewhere. But more importantly, let's do something to be useful or helpful to someone else. If we can't directly help those in the war, then let's help someone nearby. We cannot save the world and can't even help the most needy, but we can do something for someone. We can make a gesture of kindness in the world. That's something we can do.”
Comments are welcomed.
Here I sit. Still comfortable and secure on the fence. Still noodling whether to write or not to write. Taking a 360 view of things opens one up to new and different perspectives. Nothing like noticing new things to make one more mindful and present. You know, like that lovely sincere pumpkin patch which I may otherwise not have noticed. Consequently, I was able to come to a decision about my dilemma. Very simply, I decided I did not need to decide. Nope. I can stop making a big deal out of something that is a little deal in the great scheme of things. The bottom line is if I feel like writing, I will. If I don’t I won’t. And there you have it.
Just one more thing. A line in Robert Frost’s poem, Mending Wall, says, ”Good fences make good neighbors.” Good fences also make good thinking partners. So, if you find yourself in the morass of indecisiveness, grab your drink of choice, find a fence hop on and relish the view.
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Tomorrow is the annual time when the spooks, ghosts and ghoulies emerge from the woodwork and various nooks and crannies looking to engage in mischief and shenanigans. I must say the times they have changed from the more innocent days of my childhood. One thing that hasn’t changed over the decades is Linus’ determination, perseverance belief and faith that the Great Pumpkin will Make an appearance in the sincerest of pumpkin patches.
“With each year the Great Pumpkin rises out of the pumpkin patch he thinks is most sincere. He’s got to pick this one. He’s got to. I don’t see how a pumpkin patch can be more sincere than this one. You can look around and there’s not a sign of hypocrisy. Nothing but sincerity as far as the eye can see. Just wait and see, Charlie Brown. I’ll see the Great Pumpkin. I’ll see the Great Pumpkin. you wait, Charlie Brown. The Great Pumpkin will appear and I will be waiting for him.”
Perhaps the Great Pumpkin will one day materialize. Then it will sprinkle the earth with magic pumpkin seeds and all the goodness in everyone will come forward to do good in the world. Not to mention how healthy we will become thanks to the anti-oxidants, iron, zinc, magnesium, protein, vitamin K and the many other nutrients found in pumpkin seeds. So let’s give it up for Linus, Charlie Brown and the pumpkins that provide fun, nutrition and deliciousness.
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As I was sitting on that fence I wrote about last week, I looked around to see what might be on either side. I must say it was a beautiful, exhilarating October day. There on one side of the fence I spied a very inviting pumpkin patch. Of course, I had to jump down and check out the pumpkins and how sincere they were. You never know if the Great Pumpkin might make an early stop over as well. Not to totally abandon you, I have shared this delightful poem about October.
October’s Party by George Cooper
October gave a party;
The leaves by hundreds came--
The Chestnuts, Oaks, and Maples,
And leaves of every name.
The Sunshine spread a carpet,
And everything was grand,
Miss Weather led the dancing,
Professor Wind the band.
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That is the question. This has popped up a number of times, more frequently recently. Whether ‘tis foolish to continue to sit on the fence of insufferable uncertainty, or to stand up against the morass of swirling indecisiveness and by making a decision, end it. The easy answer is just make the decision. This is not a matter of great consequence. Whatever the decision, it can always be reversed. So, what’s the problem, I ask myself? I’m making this a bigger deal than it is. If you stop to think about it, with every decision, there is uncertainty going into it. Yet, we still decide things. Sometimes with regret. Most times we do what seems best.
Since decision is freedom and indecision is torture, I’m going week by week and write or not in accordance with the greener side of the fence. And there you have it.