Call me crazy. I love Valentine’s Day, which BTW is coming this week to your neighborhood (and everywhere else). Whether I’ve had a partner or not, Valentine’s Day is still a mid-winter favorite. True, it’s become over commercialized, pressure to give one’s partner a card, candy, jewelry, etc. Many people find the day a difficult one if they don’t have someone to share it with for any number of circumstances. Let me explain my perspective on the day of that chubby cherub slinging a bow and arrow.
I look at it as an opportunity to exchange micro moments of positivity with others. Of course, these opportunities ought not be limited to one day.
Something I once dreamed up is to have a Valentine missile. It would go off on February 14 sending millions and millions of tiny parachutes into the skies which would float down to earth with little hearts. There would be a message on each heart like, Be Kind, I Love You, Peace, Let’s Be friends, You Matter, Smile and so on. They would make everyone’s heart open and feel happy and want to get along.
Obviously, we do not have any devices that would explode into tiny heart carrying parachutes. Yet, there is something we can do in the real world. What if we were to get some heart-shaped post-its, or business sized cards and the like. Next we could write a brief positive message on the cards or post-its and randomly leave them at all the stops we make throughout the day. That could include putting one at each family member’s place at the table, one at a colleague’s desk at work, one on the table at a restaurant after a meal. Give one to the postal person, a sales clerk, a service provider, a teacher, a classmate, etc. This is where you get to have fun being creative and imaginative. .
Maybe, just maybe by depersonalizing the day doing little acts of kindness we can bring happiness to our recipients. Maybe, just maybe we can even find ways to spread those micro moments of positivity every day. The truth, you know, is that when we do for others, we are uplifted as well.
As my friend Lucy van Pelt espoused, “All you need is love and a little chocolate now and then doesn’t hurt.”
Comments are welcomed.