A Fourth Place
Perhaps you have heard about the third place in our lives. The first place is home. The second place is work. The third place is a place for community and socializing. It is a welcoming space that cultivates essential social experiences in the company of like-minded people.
On a similar note, third places are informal. They don’t have set agendas. It’s not a meeting, but a coming together. People come as they are, when they want, and leave just as easily. Conversation is the main activity.
Third places have “regulars.” If you go often enough, you become one. (Think of the show Cheers — a third place is “where everybody knows your name.”)
Third places can be a coffee shop, a pub, a place you can just drop in at any time and be a part of a welcoming, supportive, like-minded group. I would have to say a coffee shop is my third place of choice. What is yours?
Recently, I came to the conclusion that I might actually have a fourth place. That place is the Lemon And Lavender Gift Boutique. One day my friend and I stopped in to check out new wares and say hello to Antonella, the proprietor. As we meandered around the store, I became aware of a familiar feeling. It was the feeling of enchantment. I’d nearly forgotten. Those Lemon Blossom and Lavender flower fairies must still be sprinkling fairy dust. The store is a kaleidoscope of class, charm, whimsy, spirituality, novelty, sweetness, fun. We soon finished examining all the new items. Not wanting to leave empty-handed, I purchased a little something for one of those pop-up occasions that require a gift.
Continuing along our way, I realized something. The day had been a difficult one, but that visit to L & L really lifted my spirits. It occurred to me that when the going gets tough, this tough one needs to go to Lemon & Lavender as an antidote for the miseries.
We all need a healing space. Maybe it’s a private location, a magic cupboard, a secret garden - a fourth place. Thus, Lemon And Lavender is now my designated healing fourth place. Have you discovered yours?
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