What’s Old That Could Be New Again
Vintage. Retro. What’s old is new again. These seem to have been the buzz words for the last while. To begin with, I thought you might be interested in the difference between vintage, retro and even antique.
Antique refers to any work of art, piece of furniture, decorative object, clothing that is 100 years old or older. This definition somehow excludes cars. Vintage refers to things at least 20 years old. It is usually associated with clothing. Although some prefer the 50 year mark. Items from the 80’s are considered to be new vintage. Retro is anything that is out of style with the current time period.
I queried several people to see what from back in the day they would like to have new again. Family dinners and person to person communication topped everyone’s wish list. There is a practice that actually includes both of those. It is part of the Danish culture which contributes towards their being one of the happiest countries. Perhaps you have heard of Hygge (pronounced hooga).
Hygge is essentially drama-free togetherness time. It is cozying around, but more than that, it is being aware that that cozy time is sacred—and treating it as such. Because Danes see hygge as such a fundamental aspect of good living, they all work together to make it happen. Hygge is “we time,” not “me time”
Try to imagine going to a drama-free family gathering. There are no divisive discussions about politics, family issues, or Aunt Jenny’s dysfunctional kids. No snide comments, complaining, or heavy negativity. Everyone helps out, so that not one person gets stuck doing all the work. No one brags, attacks anyone, or competes with another. It is a light-hearted, balanced interaction that is focused on enjoying the moment, the food, and the company.
Remember it is time limited. Making hygge can be challenging for a non-Dane. No one taking center stage, no one bragging or complaining, no one being too negative and everyone trying to be present without arguing? This is hard to do for a lot of families! But the payoff is enormous. It feels incredible to share these drama-free moments with those you care about. If you realize that it is only for a dinner or a lunch or a limited period of time, it makes it much easier to really try and enjoy that moment.
Your problems will be waiting for you outside hygge’s door when you leave. But for a little while they can wait outside for the sake of the something bigger. (by Jessica Alexander in a Greater Good Science Center article)
Personally, I would like to add a game of Pick Up Sticks to Hygge time. Just saying.
Comments are welcomed.