The researcher behind the practice of self-compassion is Kristin Neff of the University of Texas, Austin. Here are just a few of the benefits that her research has demonstrated:
-Decrease in anxiety and depression
-Increase in emotional and physical well-being
-Greater sense of self-worth and optimism.
And, in case you’re worried that self-compassion will leave you happily eating chips in front of the TV all day while your bills go unpaid, Dr. Neff’s research also makes it clear that self-compassion actually enhances our lives in practical ways as well, including:
-Greater personal responsibility
-Decrease in procrastination
-Greater progress toward goals.
So developing a practice of self-compassion can be extremely helpful in our efforts to create lasting positive change in our lives. Let’s look at how we can start to develop that practice.
The first thing to do is to think briefly about an area in your life where you tend to be self-critical. What does the self-critical voice in your head tend to say to you? And if you heard a friend or loved one saying things like that to herself, what would you say in response? Or what would a wise and caring friend say to you if she could hear the self-critical voice in your head? Thinking about this can help you to craft self-compassionate responses that you can offer to yourself when your self-criticism starts to kick in.
Kristen Neff describes the friend whose kind voice we’re trying to call up as being both wise and caring. Our self-compassionate statements are meant to comfort us and encourage us—not simply to let us off the hook, but to affirm our worth in a way that can lead us back to what we most want for ourselves.
One of my favorite Neff quotes during a difficult time is: “This is a moment of suffering. Suffering is part of life. May I be kind to myself in this moment. May I give myself the compassion I need.”
Comments are welcomed.
The Canadian National Exhibition (CNE) opened it’s gates this past weekend. It’s one of the big events reminding us that summer is going to be moving on. One of the CNE’s trademarks is it’s food menu.
This year’s menu seems to have outdone itself. Following are a few of the stomach-turning options.
Cheeseburger Ice Cream - ice cream is served in a cheese-coated waffle cone, topped with a pretzel and pickle while the Street Corn ice cream features a lime, cotija cheese and chili seasoning.
Holy Moly Cannoli - This jumbo cinnamon cannoli is stuffed with veal cutlet, breaded and rolled in provolone cheese. It is then topped with provolone and Pomodoro, garlic aioli, rainbow sprinkles and topped off with hickory sticks. Don’t forget the sprinkles.
Malibu Pink Mac & Cheese - made with a pink champagne sauce along with three cheeses -- aged cheddar, gruyere, and parmesan. And, to make things a little more extra, it comes in a bread bowl along with an optional dollop of caviar.
Krispy Kreme blueberry chicken sandwich - features the signature crispy chicken breast sandwiched between two classic Krispy Kreme glazed donuts and slathered in sweet and spicy whipped blueberry cream cheese.
The watermelon burger! This combination features a juicy burger patty with feta, mint and spinach sandwiched between two watermelon slices. It’s then doused with balsamic glaze.
The piece de resistance: The four-pound taco. - composed of a hard-shell taco with cheese, lettuce, tomatoes, sour cream, pico de gallo, avocado, tomatillo salsa, pineapple, chorizo and french fries.
You can top it all of with some Pickle Cotton Candy.
If you dare to indulge, be sure to have plenty of Pepto Bismol and Alka Seltzer in your backpack along with your cardiologist and gastroenterologist on speed dial. Bon appetite!
We are in the middle moving toward the end. There’s still so much to enjoy the next couple of weeks – fairs galore, harvesting of the new crops, shopping trips for new school and work duds, still time for vacations, a super blue moon on the 30th and more. After coming across a couple of short poems that made me smile, I decided to stick with August one more time. Here they are.
Buttercup nodded and said good-bye,
Clover and daisy went off together,
But the fragrant water lilies lie
Yet moored in the golden August weather. - Celia Thaxter (1835–1894
All the long August afternoon,
The little drowsy stream
Whispers a melancholy tune,
As if it dreamed of June
And whispered in its dream.
The thistles show beyond the brook
Dust on their down and bloom,
And out of many a weed-grown nook
The aster-flowers look. – William Dean Howells
The months have rolled around once again to August. There’s something about this particular flip of the calendar that has an oddly positive affect on me. I say odd because I don’t feel quite the same for other months regardless of what they offer. I have not figured it out yet. Perhaps it doesn’t need to be figured out, just enjoyed.
Most of what makes August is still the same. The one thing that is not the same and concerns me is the weather. Once it became August there was a shift. A slightly cooler crisp quality that would start to replace the hotter humid air. Not this year or even in the very recent past. Climate change is hitting full on. There are record temperatures all around the earth, not to mention increased wild fires, floods and other natural disasters.
This ought to be a major wake up call. Especially to those who can actually do something significant about it. Of course, each one of us can do whatever small things we can. It can make a difference. The more of us that do our part the difference will be bigger. What shocks me is that there are still those who don’t believe in climate change. To what else would they attribute the current condition?
Anyway, I don’t want this to get depressing. There’s still much from which we can find fun and happiness. And, in case you may have forgotten or didn’t know tomorrow (August 8) is Sneak Zucchini Onto Your Neighbor’s Porch Day.
Comments are welcomed.